Definition:
Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (such as an addiction or illness). In other words, it is dependence on the needs of or control by another.
The following questions can serve as a guide to determine if your relationship involves codependency:
- Does your sense of purpose involve making extreme sacrifices to satisfy this person's needs?
- Is it difficult to say no when this person makes demands on your time and energy?
- Do you cover this person’s problems with drugs, alcohol, or the law?
- Do you constantly worry about others’ opinions of you?
- Do you feel trapped in your relationship?
- Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?
To learn more about codependency, an article from Psychology Today can be found here.
Al-Anon is a 12-step fellowship group for people who suffer from codependency.